“Everything with me is both mind and appearance. Why don’t I like me?»

I am 23, there was no relationship and there was no, no one has ever looked after, men do not pay attention at all. Although I always look good, thin. True, for naturalness and I do not make makeup. Shallow. They say that it’s easy with me in communication. I do not suffer by mercanticity, I do not demand anything from anyone. I live alone, without any help, independently.

This is what men need? It would seem that everything is with me, and not like me. I am thinking of having a pet so that there is already someone to give your attention, love and care. What is wrong with me?

Alexandra, 23 years old

Alexandra, you raised the question: “What is wrong with me?»This makes you think: why do you think that something should be out of order with you, immediately indicate your alleged drawback?

The fact that you had no relationship, and your young age is not a prerequisite for the problem. Maybe you have not yet decided which man you would like to see next to you, why do you need a relationship with a man and how you imagine

this relationship?

If you approach the solution of the issue from the position “something wrong with me”, then the decision will be so-so. You will answer the question of what is happening to you. And with you, most likely, everything is in perfect order. But there are nuances with strategy and goal -setting in the field of relations.

Our position, the opinion of ourselves is actively broadcast by others. It will be difficult to start relations with a man, translating a misunderstanding of oneself, puzzles and, perhaps, even irritation.

Start by the fact that if “everything is with you”, as you put it, then you cannot but like it. Set yourself to the good: “I am a beautiful, attractive young woman. And I am open to interacting with a man «. Think about what kind of interaction do you like: long -term relationships with the prospect of the family, novel or any other form. What kind of man do you see next to you? What can it be, fantasize.

Think separately about the rules and norms. What is unacceptable towards you, which should not happen, and what, on the contrary, you are welcomed and what you will be glad. Act from a strong position: «Everything is in order with me, but so far I have not enough experience and skills». Start – and gain experience that will help you crystallize your idea of relationships and your position.